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Wednesday
Mar102010

The Zen Of My Sons On A Beach

The boys have a two-week spring break every year. It's great. Long enough to do something special, as well as rest and refortify.

This year we chose to drive to Anaheim, California, and hit some theme parks. The drive was only nine hours with Leadfoot Ross at the helm. Chris and I have become pros at delicately balancing nutritional needs with dehydration while on the road to minimize needless bathroom breaks. The kids are fine.

My fears about having a "caboose" child were vividly realized on this vacation. I always wanted to have children close together to avoid the "Space Mountain vs. Tea Cups" dilemma. Oldest Boy [12] and Middle Boy [10] had a blast riding thrill rides with their father. Four-Year-Old-Boy and I spent a lot of time perusing gift shops, buying trinkets and toys he didn't need, and eating over-priced snacks. He was completely overwhelmed by the noise, the music, the characters and the intensity of all things animated and robotic.

The sun even seemed to shine painfully brighter for the four-year-old. He selected a pair of pink, bejeweled High School Musical sunglasses that he now wears all the time.

Chris and the 4YO at SeaWorld - Fancy Glasses 

We were in California for a week and managed to hit Disneyland, California Adventure, SeaWorld and Universal Studios, in spite of the fact that we were all battling a virus. The same virus I'm certain attacks all families as they embark on a much anticipated and valued family vacation. We medicated. Problem Solved.

[A medicated family is a happy family!]

A medicated family, is a happy family!


Oldest Boy's insulin pump. We spent our final day of vacation on the beach. Even though it was cool and breezy, the boys enjoyed flirting with the water and playing in the sand. I sat on some rocks, taking a few photos and video, and minding our things. I occasionally irritated all four of my white fellas when I interrupted their fun to reapply sunscreen, or remind Oldest Boy to check his blood sugar, snack or reattach his pump for a quick bolus of insulin.

My interruptions didn't affect them for long... 

[Chris and the boys - JOY!]
Chris and the boys - JOY 

As I sat looking at the ocean and smelling the air, I looked up at the sky and thought of my grandmother. She passed away in August 2009.  Before she died, she promised that if she was able [without scaring me], she would contact me after her death to give me the real scoop. I summoned her, sitting there on those rocks. Can you hear me, Mamaw? Please answer me. I've been waiting for months. Where are you? You promised. There are so many things I need to talk with you about...

I waited, and still, nothing. I miss her. I need advice about some specific issues, and her thoughts on some general ones. Sitting on those rocks, my mind meandered and bounced. I thought about the past, the present, the future. I continued to knock on Heaven's door...seeking Mamaw.

Then...I think I heard something. It was probably my own voice, but allow me to pretend it was her's. She gently said, Shhh. I'm watching those wonderful boys play on the beach. I suggest you do the same.

Priorities - Spring Break 2010 from Chris Ross on Vimeo.

Reader Comments (27)

Wow, what a trip--in every sense of the word.
Just a beautiful post - and the words were definitely your grandmother's

x
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered Commentermary
Glad your time in California was so wonderful.
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAnne
I so want that hat with teeth! Adorable!

And were those . . . ahem . . . you were holding there? Just wondering . . .

What a gloriously fun post. Glad you're all home safe.
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered Commentertysdaddy
looks wonderful! thanks for sharing it w/us.
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered Commenteranna see
I had to go back and watch the video again to see just what it was... ahem... you were holding. My guess is no! Favorite parts of the video? Duke elbowing Parke and Parke rubbing his arm, and Redmond sleeping.... Your Mamaw was right... savor the moments. It goes way too fast!
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterPam
It sounds and looks like heaven. Those moments when you realize that you have a little heaven on earth. Your Mawma recognized it too.

Great post!
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterEllie Belen
Great post, Chris. Glad you had a good time. Natalie Merchant has such a sexy voice.

Sorry, sidetracked.
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCaptain Dumbass
Our lives are made up of moments ... and these are truly some golden ones.
March 10, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLady Fi
I didn't realize 1st and 2nd were so close in height!

Mamaw is a wise woman, isn't she?
March 11, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMiddle Aged Woman
Oh my gosh, how do you do that so well? You bring your readers smiles and tears of joy in one post. This is just wonderful. I'm glad you all had such a great and joyful time with each other. I love your Mamaw. Through you, she spoke to all of us.
March 11, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCheri @ Blog This Mom!
OMG! I can't believe you noticed that. We were in a candy store called IT'SUGAR and I found candy smokes. Got a kick out of it because I hadn't seen them for years. I'd had just enough wine at Wolfgang Puck's to think it was a good idea to buy a few packs. They're currently crammed in a drawer. Want some?
March 11, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChris
Natalie Merchant sidetracks me too. No apologies necessary.
March 11, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChris
She is SO wise. Thanks, Claire.
March 11, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChris
Oh my god I love that song and now I'm tearing up.

What a great trip...can't wait to make that trip with my kids.
Sniffle! That was the perfect ending to this story! Sounds like it was a good time, despite the age variance. Love the pink shades and the boy who can wear 'em! The beach is divine - makes me want to go this summer...
March 11, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterwe_be_toys
That was divine...that is the best word to describe it.Missing you (with a tear in my eye).xo Robin
March 12, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRobin Larraza
This makes me wish I had 3 boys! Sort of. The 1 is pretty entertaining in his young age.
March 12, 2010 | Unregistered Commentermuskrat
I love the glasses! And I see he wore them on the beach as well. And now I have to play the video for a THIRD time to appease my daughter. Apparently, she's a NM fan too.
March 13, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKate Coveny Hood
Uh-huh. You got it...
March 13, 2010 | Unregistered Commentermichael.offworld
Oh you brought tears to my eyes! So glad you all had fun. Love the glasses, and am sure that she was speaking TO you! How wonderful!

PS - I can't believe this didn't appear in my reader. I just saw your post on facebook and thought to myself, gee, I hope Chrisy posts again soon, her last one was on Valentine's Day (stalker, much? Moi?) and lo and behold here's one from last week! Egads!
March 14, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterchristy
You were fifteen minutes from me and I didn't get to see you? Big bummer. Hope you had a blast. Your Mamaw is right. It is what is right in front of us that is really most important. Remind I said this about 10 times a week would you?
March 14, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjessica bern
I love it. That's all. Just love it. lol I hear my mom's cackling laugh. Do you remember it?? Most often in those moments of frustration with Grace, those lovely mother-daughter relationship adventures. Or when Spencer has done some very "teenage" thing that I thought my mother was horrible for being so demanding of me and is now coming back to haunt me. I've even looked at Shawn before and asked, "Did you hear that?" And he has, too!! Mamaw was right there with you, whispering in your ear. The ultimate comfort.
March 16, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDebbi Austin
These sounds like a great vacation (besides the sickliness...why does that ALWAYS happen?)

As the MUCH younger sister, I totally know how it feels to be the one left out - the truth is I never really minded...I looked up to my big brothers too much to care that I couldn't (and still can't) do what they do.
March 16, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDeidre
What a beautiful post, Chris...Funny and touching all at once.
March 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAll Adither
you have a wonderful family that every one dream of..
March 24, 2010 | Unregistered Commenteronline doctor
I love your video! Beautiful family and a lovely vacation. I have got to learn how to make videos like that before my boys get too much older. :)
March 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAnastasia

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