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Wednesday
Sep102008

Whatever you call it, it feels real good.

I thought I was so clever a couple days ago.  I was explaining to Chris how fulfilling it was to receive acknowledgments on comments that I'd left on other people's blogs.  I told him how crazy I felt walking past the PC, checking a blogger's comments string to see if they'd noticed mine.  Was it acknowledged?  If it was, was I spanked, stroked or given a benign response?  Regardless, I was telling Chris, that a few bloggers, not all, give me this rush of relief or completeness when I've been acknowledged.  Like, OH that was good, I can release that now. Anxious anticipation - poof - resolved. I said, it's like a blogasm.  Hey!  Maybe I can blog about that feeling!? 

I know it was naive to think I'd coined a new word and definition for something that's been around for several years now.   But c'mon.  Throw me a bone.   I googled blogasm this morning.  Been done - used and defined many ways - most of them involving reading erotic blogs.  (I'm no prude, but not what I'm talkin' about.)

It's embarrassing to know that certain bloggers (and it changes) have the power to caress me so.  Gives me an ahhhh when I'm acknowledged.

I was visiting Mother and Dad while on a break from college one time.  Mom had been attending a new yoga class at their racquet club that she said I just had to try.  That in and of itself is a story because although petite, trim and attractive, Mom is not an exercise person - certainly not an aerobics or yoga person. 

She said, "It's amazing.  The best part's at the end.  After we do all that yoga crap, we lie on our backs with our eyes closed.  The instructor moves quietly around the room and touches every person on the forehead.  It feels. so. good.  I'm not kidding Chrisy.  You just tingle all over."

We got in our goofy pink and white leotards and 80's leg warmers, tried not to snort-laugh through the class - neither one of us are flexible and the earth muffin teacher (no offense - I love earth muffins - I try to be one) was over the top new agey, even for me - a college coed who was pretty much trying everything at that time.

At the end of the class the lights were dimmed and our sounds of nature music was softly playing.  Mom and I were lying beside each other, eyes closed, on our backs - relaxed...  I felt the instructor near us (maybe I smelled her, can't remember).  She obviously touched Mom first, because after she touched my head and I tingled, I slightly opened one eye and glanced at Mom.  She dramatically mouthed, "See?"

That's how my blogasms feel.

Reader Comments (18)

Really? Because I just hope they won't acknowledge (or even notice) my comments at all - inevitably I will have spelled their name wrong :) This is called blogidity and I am famous for it.
September 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCorbie
Corbie - I'm pathetic. I know. I'll stroke you, even if you get nothing from it. I don't think you're famous for blogidity Gorgeous...
September 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCsquaredplus3
I have been trying to be better about responding to comments, I also find a email works better sometimes.

P.S. Using words like "Spanked" and "Stroked" in your posts will send people like me (mind in the gutter) over the edge and will have a hard time reading the rest of the posts. Just sayin
September 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterPunk Rock Dad
PRD - I use email too. I don't mean to give the impression that I expect or even desire an acknowledgment from my comments. Many bloggers (myself included) don't always have the time to address comments in a timely manner. Because I'm a relatively new blogger, I had hoped other newbies would relate, and maybe even some of the experienced bloggers would remember the feeling of being acknowledged by someone who's style they admired. (They're most likely over any "rush" from slight attention though.)

This has just been fun - filling one of my wells in a hopefully healthy way.

P.S. You Dad's are all alike.
September 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCsquaredplus3
If you want me to go to yoga class with you, a tingly touch on the forehead just isn't going to do it. Now if you promise cheesecake afterward, I'm in.
September 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterTristan
I'm fairly new too - so I know what you mean. I can be so elated by acknowledgement from a writer I admire. It really is a rush - and it can make my day. And then I think, "geek." Or maybe that was just my husband saying it...can't be sure.
September 10, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKate
Tristan - Let's skip yoga, and just get the cheesecake. We can high-five after we eat, instead of the tingly forehead touch.

Kate - THANK YOU. I was feeling like a dork for posting this. Your comment made me feel a understood and validated. A little better...
September 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCsquaredplus3
Oh Chris… you wrote the way I feel most days too. Living in a house of boys, who aren't known for their feedback, appreciation or compliments, I take every opportunity I can to sneak into my office to check email—hoping for a comment on my own blog, or a reaction to something I wrote on another.

It's all about the feedback, Baby. You want to know that your words are worth something to somebody.

Your words are golden, and I so enjoy reading them ;)
September 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJoe Girl
I'm still new at responding to comments. I've been blogging for 3 years and only in the last 4 months of blogging have I begun to get comments. I definatly like recieving the emails. Which I'll be putting more effort into respoding to and I always leave comments to those who've commented on my page.

on a side note: I lost some weight then chocolate ruined it. Bad chocolate.
September 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer
Joe Girl - Our lives sound similar. Your words ARE worth something. Thank you for them. (I truly didn't mean for this to be a pathetic solicitation for comments or compliments.)

Jennifer - Congrats on the weight loss! Don't get discouraged about the bad chocolate (there's no such thing BTW). Just get right back on track with moderate eating and exercise. You can do it!
September 11, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCsquaredplus3
I've been blogging for six and a half years and I still like to be acknowledged in comments or emails related to my comments. It's not that I need the validation that I made a funny or that I touched someone with my oh-so-amazing command of the English language and my knack for knowing the human psyche as much as it is just nice to know there's a real person behind the blog who occasionally finds me momentarily interesting.
September 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterDa Goddess
I so relate to that blogasm feeling. It's a total rush. Then, there's the opposite -- the blog blue nuts -- where you're never acknowledged.

Blogasms are so much better.

Good yoga analogy!
September 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSan Diego Momma
Exactly! I feel that way too. Go over and look at our San Diego Blog Bitches (link in my sidebar) group blog, back a few post. I blogged there about how it felt when Bossy left a comment on Blog This Mom! I love your word for it. Very excellent!
September 12, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCheri @ Blog This Mom!
DaGoddess - I'm with ya. It's nice when the writer makes an appearance on more than their own post - really does personalize the experience.

San Diego Momma - I hate to give the blogging experience the power to "make" or "break" my morning, afternoon, or day. You're right though, the opposite of a blogasm isn't fun either. Deflation.

Blog This Mom - Thanks! Can't wait to check it out. I'm in Arizona visiting my grandmother (91), fumbling on my mother's laptop, so I'll surf more when I get home. I imagine you felt wonderfully complimented - as you should...
September 13, 2008 | Unregistered Commentercsquaredplus3
Shucks. Blogasmed when I read Bossy's comment, but I hear she has other lovers. *sigh* She left katydidnot one on her last post. And I kind of blogasmed vicariously.
September 13, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCheri @ Blog This Mom!
Oh, and Mrs. G over at Derfwad Manor? Each and every comment makes me blogasm. So, with Mrs. G.? It's like multiple blogasms.

I'll stop commenting on this post for now.
September 13, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterCheri @ Blog This Mom!
I'm new, too, and didn't know I was supposed to respond to comments!!!! Thanks for your post. Now, where can I go for a blogasm? (Actually, I did feel one when I had some wonderful, wonderful comments to my birthday post...)

I know what you mean.......
September 14, 2008 | Unregistered Commentervodkamom
damn, I better go respond to everyone!!!!!!!!
September 14, 2008 | Unregistered Commentervodkamom

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